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relationships are based on trust. When you begin dating, you're on your best behavior,
but as time goes by your true colors show through. It's not always easy to spot
a deceitful person before you get tangled in a relationship. Here we will show
you things to look out for. |
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No matter how many personality or assessment tests
a dating site uses to pair you up with potential partners, the kind of people
you meet will not always be winners. When you suspect a problem and feel distrustful,
body language can be the most telling factor to confirm or relieve your fears. After
spending time with someone, you begin to understand their normal actions and mannerisms.
People who are deceptive often show specific give-away signs of restlessness or
erratic behavior when they are lying. Honest, forthright people generally
have no problem talking truthfully about themselves and their feelings to the
people they are intimate with. If your partner avoids certain subjects, it may
be that they have something to hide. Another sign of deception is an unwillingness
to look you right in the eye. When you speak with someone who is sincere, their
focus will be on you. Deceptive people are distracted to keep from revealing their
true nature. Never take things at face value. Even the most accomplished
liar doesn't cover all of their tracks. Time will often bring out the truth. You
don't want to come across like an interrogator, but rephrasing a question for
more detail may help you discern the truth of a story. A deceptive person is usually
a quick thinker, but with the added pressure to sound believable may fine it difficult
to keep the story straight. You might find that the story doesn't always add up.
Look for gaps in their story and for pauses in their speech that may be
an attempt to buy more time to compose a believable story. A nervous or an easily
distracted person may be covering their dishonest nature. Deceptive people
will try to change the subject or throw the ball back into your court, especially
when you push for details. They often become defensive about your questions or
accusatory of your lack of trust.
The hard part of learning to spot deception
or dishonesty is that the signs are not always clear. You'll need to trust your
gut and be on guard until you are sure that the person you're dating is sincere
and honest.
By Vanessa May
DateShowcase.com
© 2007
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