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it comes to a relationship, your ability to show your best traits can be a crucial
factor in clinching a date. How do you convince someone to take a chance and agree
to date you? That's what selling yourself is all about. Marketing your best traits
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The truth of the matter is that if you cannot
sell yourself as a person to others, you are going to have a difficult time selling
them your ideas, wishes and needs. But for many people, it doesn't come naturally.
Shyness or lack of self-worth are just a few of the obstacles that can get in
the way. Be Sold on Yourself
The most important aspect of selling
yourself is that you first like and respect who you are and have a high sense
of self-worth. Unless it comes naturally, this is probably the hardest part and
doesn't happen overnight. Find some time to reflect on what you like about
yourself. It may help to list all your positive qualities without dwelling on
your liabilities. Live in such a way that you would want to be friends with yourself.
Focus on Your Market
What type of person are you looking to meet?
Take time to consider the specific attributes and personality traits of the partner
you are hoping for. Write it down - the more specific and detailed you can be
the better. Finding Interested Parties
Your perfect partner
is probably not going to come to you. So use what you already have! Your hobbies
and talents are places to start. Organizations that deal with your interests are
a great place to start to sell yourself. Use all the means at your disposal including
personal ads, the Internet, family and friends. The Sales Pitch
Your
opening pitch is how you greet others. Make a habit of saying hello, good morning,
howdy or whatever phrase you're comfortable with on a regular basis and to all
the people you pass. Then, when you meet someone interesting, you will be much
more relaxed when breaking the ice. After your initial greeting, use the
event you are both attending to start a conversation. For example, at the grocery
store you might ask for advice on a particular product. Or talk about something
your knowledgeable or passionate about. Your enthusiasm will open up further conversation.
Avoid using tacky pick-up lines or goofy cliques. They usually result in
rolling eyes and groaning and are generally ineffective. Often considered unimaginative,
pick-up lines may make you appear less than sincere. Be Positive and
Enthusiastic
Selling yourself well is the difference between great customer
service and poor service. Notice other's positive attributes. Let others know
who you really are by being truthful and honestly caring. Not only that, it will
make you feel good about yourself. The last thing you want to do is sell yourself
out by compromising your values and principles. Making the Sale
Possibly
the hardest part of selling yourself is learning whether you've been successful.
The telling sign is a phone number. How do you get their phone number? Ask! It
may take practice to feel confident in asking, but it's the only way to move the
relationship forward.
By Vanessa May
DateShowcase.com
© 2007
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