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{{dating}}The
'test' is a quirky, unexpected and often unknown expectation that a woman puts
on her partner with the future of their relationship hanging in the balance. Whether
you pass or fail depends on the challenge and being aware of many common situations
that may be a 'test.' |
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The 'test' can take many forms. Forget to call
when you promised, speak unkindly about your sister or any number of egregious
actions can ruin any chance of building a long-term successful relationship. If
the test is over a minor offense, its probably better that you find out the quirky
nature of the person early on and get out while you can.
Testing in a
relationship is typically a female technique to determine whether a love interest
is worth their time and effort. Women are looking for Mr. Right. Men aren't usually
as particular or exacting about the traits of the women they date and more willing
to play the field; so they test less often.
For the most part, people don't
even realize that they are testing or being tested. It's all part of analyzing
potential partners. Although there may be one issue or 'test' that will make or
break a relationship, there is typically several with varying degrees of importance.
Failing one 'test' brings on another 'test'.
It's not imperative that you
recognize a test for what it is, but it is important that you learn how to respond
in various situations to show who you are. Tests are not problems to be solved;
they are situations created to see how you will react. Here are some things to
look for:
- Questions or actions that are out of character for her or
the situation
- Situations or reactions to a situation that turns it into
a major event
- Requests that ask you to 'jump through hoops'
But
before you get frustrated with passing the 'test' keep these important points
in mind:
- You are not required to cater to whims in a relationship
- You
deserve to be respected
- Anger will cause you to fail any test!
- Truthful
conversation, responses and behavior will pass every time!
Women who
continue to 'test' you over and over again will never be happy. Resolve to walk
away and remember what you've learned for next time. {{/dating}}
By Vanessa
May
DateShowcase.com © 2007
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