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distance relationships are difficult-- but they can work! Whether it's only a
few hours drive or a plane ride away, you can still have a supportive, loving
relationship with the potential for growth and bonding. Here are a few tips to
help you navigate the periods of separation. |
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Communication is Key
The stability
of long distance relationships is often determined by how well you communicate.
Talking with your partner every day can provide reassurance in a relationship
that is often unpredictable due to schedule and time zone differences. The anticipation
of talking to each other, sharing high points (or low points), or even just hearing
each other's voices can offer an emotional connection that keeps the fire going.
Express your feelings honestly and you're sure to keep your long distance relationship
healthy. Dating Other People
It's important to discuss
how you'll deal with your times apart. Sacrifices may need to be made by both
partners. The most sensitive issue is whether you will date other people. Depending
on how deeply involved you are with each other, this can be the potential deal
breaker. Pay Attention to Your Partner
Listening is a
skill that is imperative in long distance relationships. Each person should feel
that they are being heard and understood. If you partner feels like you're not
listening-- they might just go out and find someone who will. A deaf ear can quickly
be the downfall of any long distance relationship. Take Advantage
of Technology
Before the Internet, communication was limited to letters
and telephone calls. With today's technology, you can connect at any time-- multiple
time a day. Send an e-mail or text message with a simple "I love you!" Spend a
few minutes finding the perfect e-card to communicate how you're feeling. Don't
replace a traditional love letter or greeting card for the ease of the Internet--supplement
them. Nothing shows you care more than a handwritten note or card expressing heartfelt
emotions. Providing Reassurance
Long distance relationships
can strain emotions and you may find that you (or your partner) need reassurance
more often than in a traditional relationship. Although trust in essential, try
to be a little more understanding about your partners insecurities and provide
the reassurance they need when they're feeling weak or especially depressed or
lonely.
Although every relationship develops at it's own pace, long distance
relationships are typically more difficult and often end quicker due to the intense
feelings that separation can cause. Trust your common sense and realize that a
long distance relationship will require a different focus but could end up being
the lifelong, honest relationship you've been looking for.
By Vanessa May
DateShowcase.com © 2007
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