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{{dating}}You
may have a great personal ad with a wonderful smiling photo to attract attention,
but things can still fall apart if you're sending out the wrong message when you
respond to emails or contact potential dates. Here are some pointers about your
first email to insure sucess. |
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Eye Popping Subject Lines
If you fail
to attract attention with your subject line, odds are that it will be passed over
until later or even worse, deleted. Don't waste this precious space with a generic
'hi' or use a template. The best way to stand out is by using something from the
person's profile in the line to show that you've actually read it. And a bit of
wit or humor will go a long way toward getting noticed. Greet with Enthusiasm
Once someone has decided to read your email, you have another chance to make a
great impression with your greeting. Just like the subject line, make it personal
and relevant to the person you're contacting. Talking about the person you're
writing to is a proven way to get a better response.
The Body of Your E-Mail
Shared Interests and Purpose
Talk about what you have in common
and what you're looking for in a date. Express an interest in getting to know
the person better by making references to their interests or hobbies. You don't
have to be an expert, just try to avoid being superficial and go deeper than just
'likes' and 'dislikes'.
A Bit About You
Although the focus of
your email should be about the other person, don't neglect to talk a bit about
yourself. Share with them why you're contacting them and positive attributes that
you have to offer a date.
Ask for a Response
Ask questions--
most people will respond with an answer-- particularly if its on a subject they
have an interest in.
Have a Relaxed and Honest Attitude
Some
people try to portray the kind of person they think people want to meet. But the
truth is, there's someone for everyone. Don't try to be someone you're not-- because
in the long run you'll eventually be discovered. A dishonest response will get
you nowhere. Be honest about yourself and it will pay off.
Everyone Loves
a Compliment!
Make a compliment-- and make it sincere and meaningful.
Flowery cliques make most of us groan, so use them sparingly and only if you mean
it. It the person's profile was humorous and you thought so, then say so.
Be
Confident and Upbeat
We all enjoy being with people that are fun and comfortable
with themselves. Speak in positive terms-- the glass is half full vs. the glass
is have empty. Don't be afraid to express an opinion but be prepared to meet others
who don't share the same.
Don't Overwrite
Most clicks on your e-mail
are from people wanting a quick glance before they'll commit to further communication.
That being said, your e-mail shouldn't read like novel. Keep it short, witty and
informative. If you agree to communicate more, determine if e-mail is the preferred
method.
Your Clear Intent
Without facial expressions and body language,
the written word can be interpreted differently then you intend, if you're not
careful. Slang terms should be avoided and don't use words that can sound like
sexual innuendo.
Safety First
Get to know someone only through the
dating site e-mail as it maintains your privacy. When meeting in person choose
public places. Share your personal e-mail address, phone number and home address
after you have determined that you feel safe with the person. People you meet
online are strangers! Use caution as you would with any other stranger.
The
Last Word
Your will be remembered by your creative writing and often the
last sentence or salutation. So be creative and end with an eye-catching good-bye!{{/dating}}
By Vanessa May
DateShowcase.com © 2007
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