 | Wouldn't
it be great if there was a magic spell that could help you find the perfect match?
Maybe in a fairy tail-- but in reality it's a little more difficult! We've all
heard people say, "there's someone out there for everyone". Well, here
are a few things to consider when you're looking: |  |
Be Realistic About Yourself You
might as well draw a name from a hat if you aren't honest about who you are when
your trying to find your soul mate. You need to think long and hard about yourself--
and not just superficially! Understand your own likes and dislikes and be honest
with what you'll accept and what you can't accept in a partner. If you have trouble
seeing yourself, there are a wide variety of free personality
tests that can help you see 'what others see' online. This will make it easier
for you to define what you're looking for in a partner. Eight Areas to Consider:
- Personality Type: Are you outgoing and sociable or shy and
reserved? Are you a born leader or would you just as soon take directions from
someone else? Although they say "opposites attract", it's proven that
people with similar personality types have more successful relationships.
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Ethnicity or Religion: Your ethnicity may be an important aspect of who
you are as a person. Don't be ashamed of it-be honest with the role it plays in
finding your perfect match. Are you a spiritual person-- or are you just trying
to enjoy the ride? If you're active in any religion, you would probably want to
avoid an atheist.
- Personal Interests and Hobbies: Are there hobbies
that help define who you are and that would be non-negotiable in a relationship?
Everyone has things that they won't compromise on when looking for a partner.
For instance, if you love dogs, you wouldn't want someone who is allergic to dogs.
Are you a physical fitness nut or a laid back couch potato? All of these personal
interests define what is important in your life and need to be accepted or shared
by a life long partner.
- Physical Attractiveness: We all know
that a match made on a purely physical level is not enough. It goes much deeper!
But as much as we would like to be able to overlook the physical, let's face it,
it's one of the first reason's we're attracted to someone. Just be realistic and
don't put too much weight on specific physical attributes. These can usually be
overlooked if you connect in other ways.
- Communication
Skills: A healthy long-term relationship requires the ability and willingness
to talk, debate, laugh, cry and connect emotionally through verbal communication.
Although it's not always necessary, having comparable educational backgrounds
keeps discussions lively and both partners challenged. Sharing interests, religion,
books, music, etc. are all ways we connect in this way.
- Physical
Location: It's possible that someone in France could be your perfect match.
But how is that going to workout in the long-term? Although there are always exceptions,
the odds are against you ending up in a long-term relationship with someone halfway
around the world. Before considering a long distance relationship, be sure you've
exhausted all other options to find someone in your own neighborhood.
- Future
Vision: It's often overlooked, but a healthy relationship must include a shared
vision for the future. This is one area that you can't compromise on! With different
ideas on careers, family and personal goals, life will be one conflict after another
as you struggle for control.
Is there really such a thing as a 'perfect
match'? You'll find a wide variety of answers to that question! But in most truly
successful relationships, you'll find common ground among all the areas discussed
above. Chances are, if you focus your attention on these points--you'll find more
success too.
By Vanessa May
DateShowcase.com © 2007
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